Good looks is not the most important thing, its the only thing

I've never been much to look at. Neither do I have the body or the packaging skill to compensate for it. A sad truth in my life which I've always tried to take in stride. But like most obstacles in life, you can rest assure that there will be people around you to put you in your place if you try to get past it. Sometimes, these "helpful" souls don't intend a comment or a joke to be taken seriously or worst still hurt. But more often then not it always does. In my case its more about realization then anything else. Blessed with really good friends one may tend to forget their place in the "social ladder". They may start to believe like their friends, everyone will be able to look past their short comings and accept them. And I for one am plagued with a bountiful of "super" short comings.

Over the weekend, there were two incidents which brought me down to earth(hard). The first of which occured during a friend's birthday outing. As we sat in Hong kong cafe deciding where to go, a bar at cuscaden was suggested. I for one have really good memories about that place. It was there that I met Joey feng(actress and miss universe singapore runner up). She was really down to earth and approachable. We partied the night away and even took a picture together. In the picture we were hugging. As I showed the picture around the table brimming with pride I was shot down(flat) by a friend of the birthday boy. 1 look at the picture and she shrilled out loud," Eeeeeee, Why she let you hug her." BANG!!! Bullet to the ego. 1.. 2.. wait he is still with us. Somehow I survived the low blow. Of course, in her defence that little outburst was only a jest. Albeit being a joke it stinged cause in reality people like me shouldn't be hugging someone of her calibare. Two totally different standards. What meant as a joke brought to surface a harsh reality. Although this experience has taught me never to show that picture again, it has also make me feel new found admiration for Joey. I didn't realise the gap between us till that joke. When I've been constantly turned down by average looking women, a lady of her beauty and status found me intresting enough to hang out with. Bad taste?? Maybe but i'm not complaining.

The second incident was a conversation between my very close friend's girlfriend and me. I was going through my friend's phone looking at pictures. When I chanced upon a hottie. Without skipping a beat I immediately pounced(not physically) on my friend's girlfriend for information. Her reaction," Hmmm, I don't know. You are not her type." I asked giving my best puppy dog look," You mean i'm not handsome enough??". She replied(rather coldly),"Yea." Ouch. Bang, bang. 1.. 2.. its a miracle, he is still hanging on. Barely holding on, but still not out. Gonna take much more then that to take me out. Sensing my dejection, she went on to say," But hei what you lack in looks you make up in personality". Like a child looking at his messiah I asked," So you think i got a chance." She replied,"Noped". Bang, bang , BOOM. 1.. 2.. 3.. Ting ting ting. He is out.

Talk about an ego beating. All these and on 1 weekend. Sigh. But hei life goes on. I have long realize that I ain't gonna kid anyone by suggesting I'm actually quite decent to look at once you know me well enough. Still its little reminders like the above mentioned ones that keep my feet firmly on the ground and my reality in check. I may not be Brad pitt or Takeshi but I have an advantage they don't. I'm here, I'm in the flesh. Though this advantage has yet to be of any use, I'm pretty certain it will one day. Or atleast i hope. :P

To gift or not to gift

'At a cocktail party, one woman said to another, "Aren't you wearing your wedding ring on the wrong finger?" The other woman replied, "Yes, only because I married the wrong man." '

Recently in class, a close classmate of mine handed me his phone saying his newly acquainted girlfriend wishes to speak to me. Girlfriend," Parvinnnnn, do you think its ok if i get L(my classmate) a ring for our 1 month anniversary". Baffled by the question, I replied if its nice I don't see why not. She replied," But don't you think its too soon". Only then did it hit me, what she was really trying to ask. A ring unlike any other jewellery comes with a hidden meaning. Let me try to explain, a couple(or wedding) ring is sort of a tourniquet worn on one's finger to stop circulation. And no, I don't mean blood circulation although I'm pretty sure most men would jump in agreement. But, the circulation among the other sex. A ring is like signboard screaming "Stay back, he/she is taken". Also an unbroken circle(ring) is an age-old symbol of eternity. Everlasting love if you may(agree). A beautiful ideology though not very reliable. Long after a relationship disolves, the ring will still stay intact.

Still it wasn't the ring that proved to be a thorn in my side but the fact that a couple after being "steady" for a month can still be insecure enough to wonder if a couple ring is too soon. Before anyone who reads this post and scream of course its too early, please give me a moment to explain myself. "Steady" is a term so commonly used that is has lost its meaning. Almost every single person has a "stead" this days. Although I trully believe they have no idea of what it really means. Going "steady" means to be in a STEADY relationship. A serious relationship which by tradition should end in marriage. In a steady relationship the couple has to be very sure that this is the face they want to wake up to every morning for the rest of their lives(morning breath and all). Its a relationship in which two people have found their other half but for some reason or the other ain't engage in holy matrimony. Any couple who have not reach that stage cannot and should not be naive enough to believe they are in a steady relationship. A relationship which is still hanging on the balance or in its early stages is "rocky" at best.

But i guess," Ai gal, you wanna go rocky?". Doesn't appeal as much as, "Ai, you wanna go steady?". That and also the fact that in our Asian culture, we have yet to accept the idea of dating. Over here its ok to hold or kiss a boyfriend whom you met last week but its a sin to cuddle with a guy whom you have known and dated for months. The term steady is like shield to date and get to know a person on a more intimate level. Without this shield the accuse will seem cheap or loose. The difference between being a whore and a saint?? One word, the all powerful and all empowering tittle, "STEADY". Hypocrisy?? Guess thats for every individual to decide for themself. But till dating becomes an accepted term, I have only one thing to say," Got any gal out there wanna go steady??". :P

Sleeping disorder

There are certain things in life which I always seem to have problems with. Like school, love, working out, etc. But the 1 thing that really bugs me the most is sleeping. I would like to believe that sleeping like eating should come naturally but somehow for me, even that(sleeping) proves a challange. E.g. last night, I slept at around 9 only to wake up this morning feeling like I ran a marathon. Maybe its the weather or the weird dreams i get, but i can never seem to be able to wake up feeling fresh in the morning. So as i sit here and lament about my sleeping(or lack of) patterns. I try to think back of methods introduced to help get a good night's rest. A billion thoughts race through my mind but only 2 sticks out. Alcohol and masturbation. 2 theories founded by the brilliance of my childhood buddies. To set the record straight I don't use either as I believe both are flawed. Alcohol might sound good in theory but i'm a Sikh. Just a drink or 1 last glass is almost unheard of, where I come from. Its either drink till you drop or till every possible source of alcohol within arm's length is exhausted. And in both scenarios the drinker(me) wakes up with headache of mammoth proportion and the feeling that suicide might just not seem like that bad of an idea. So drinking to bed is out. Next is masturbation, this idea I'm trully sure was just brought about by wilthered old men trying to justify their act of "passion". Masturbating at my age(25 if u know me and 21 if you don't) is a little embarrassing. This act(or crime depending on where you are from) of "passion" should be left to guys below 18, fulltime NS men and men who have been in a marriage for over 10 years. Any men who can commit for a whole decade should automatically be given the right to cheat(mentally) once in a while. And since I don't qualify for any of these categories, masturbation has also been striked out of sleeping aid list. Guess I shall have to stick to the more conventional methods. Warm glass of milk(milo in my case), counting of sheeps or even the slow breathing method I read off the internet. Armed with this little arsenal of knowledge I shall continue to wage this war against insomnia. A battle which I pray shall end soon as I doubt my lectures will be so accommaodating to me strolling into class late every morning. Try explaining to a 100 year old white haired war veteran that you have problems sleeping. An experience that will make you feel stupid, lazy and sleepy(as they try to compare your sleeping problems to their ancient post war stories). There is no winning when up against someone who grew up without electricity.

1st post

So far the blogging experience has been... hmmm.. Tiring?? Too much work.. Must load picture, fill in stuffs, etc etc... To top it off Samuel(i will intro the ppl close to me as we go by) thinks i should design my own skin.. I'm the type of bloke that is too lazy to look gd physically(dressing up, etc), and he wants me to make my blog more appealing?!?!? U gotta be kidding.. Although i wouldn't mind if any1 out there reading this blog(yes i mean all 3 of u) wants to give me hand with it.. Lets see since its my 1st post, maybe i should give u guys a heads up on what to expect.. Will try to post atleast once a day, unless of course i have a super boring day with nothing worth mentioning.. Be warn though, days like these are often and sometimes lasts for months pretty much like a bad draught.. But no worries dear readers(yes all 3 of u) once, a week i will post a joke, a riddle and if my blog somehow manages to attract more views throw in "word of the week".. Oh yea, and once every week i would write a little something about myself.. So yeah.. Thats it for my 1st post.. Till the next episode of lame jokes and posts, cya...