Good looks is not the most important thing, its the only thing

I've never been much to look at. Neither do I have the body or the packaging skill to compensate for it. A sad truth in my life which I've always tried to take in stride. But like most obstacles in life, you can rest assure that there will be people around you to put you in your place if you try to get past it. Sometimes, these "helpful" souls don't intend a comment or a joke to be taken seriously or worst still hurt. But more often then not it always does. In my case its more about realization then anything else. Blessed with really good friends one may tend to forget their place in the "social ladder". They may start to believe like their friends, everyone will be able to look past their short comings and accept them. And I for one am plagued with a bountiful of "super" short comings.

Over the weekend, there were two incidents which brought me down to earth(hard). The first of which occured during a friend's birthday outing. As we sat in Hong kong cafe deciding where to go, a bar at cuscaden was suggested. I for one have really good memories about that place. It was there that I met Joey feng(actress and miss universe singapore runner up). She was really down to earth and approachable. We partied the night away and even took a picture together. In the picture we were hugging. As I showed the picture around the table brimming with pride I was shot down(flat) by a friend of the birthday boy. 1 look at the picture and she shrilled out loud," Eeeeeee, Why she let you hug her." BANG!!! Bullet to the ego. 1.. 2.. wait he is still with us. Somehow I survived the low blow. Of course, in her defence that little outburst was only a jest. Albeit being a joke it stinged cause in reality people like me shouldn't be hugging someone of her calibare. Two totally different standards. What meant as a joke brought to surface a harsh reality. Although this experience has taught me never to show that picture again, it has also make me feel new found admiration for Joey. I didn't realise the gap between us till that joke. When I've been constantly turned down by average looking women, a lady of her beauty and status found me intresting enough to hang out with. Bad taste?? Maybe but i'm not complaining.

The second incident was a conversation between my very close friend's girlfriend and me. I was going through my friend's phone looking at pictures. When I chanced upon a hottie. Without skipping a beat I immediately pounced(not physically) on my friend's girlfriend for information. Her reaction," Hmmm, I don't know. You are not her type." I asked giving my best puppy dog look," You mean i'm not handsome enough??". She replied(rather coldly),"Yea." Ouch. Bang, bang. 1.. 2.. its a miracle, he is still hanging on. Barely holding on, but still not out. Gonna take much more then that to take me out. Sensing my dejection, she went on to say," But hei what you lack in looks you make up in personality". Like a child looking at his messiah I asked," So you think i got a chance." She replied,"Noped". Bang, bang , BOOM. 1.. 2.. 3.. Ting ting ting. He is out.

Talk about an ego beating. All these and on 1 weekend. Sigh. But hei life goes on. I have long realize that I ain't gonna kid anyone by suggesting I'm actually quite decent to look at once you know me well enough. Still its little reminders like the above mentioned ones that keep my feet firmly on the ground and my reality in check. I may not be Brad pitt or Takeshi but I have an advantage they don't. I'm here, I'm in the flesh. Though this advantage has yet to be of any use, I'm pretty certain it will one day. Or atleast i hope. :P